Friday, 21 March 2014

"They..."

One of the main reasons that I've started this blog is to attempt to counteract what they say.


















In the words of Jem (early noughties pop singer, remember her? You should, she was ace) Who are they? Where are they? How can they possibly know all this?
Well they are the people who tell you that you should spend 2 months wages on an engagement ring; they tell you that you have to wear a white (or near enough) dress even if you've never worn a dress in your life; they tell you that you should spend more on a huge cake than you would spend on a months food shopping; they say that you simply must arrive in a fancy car, or horse drawn carriage even if you're just going 500 meters down the road; they tell you that you have to invite people that you haven't seen since you were 5/ have nothing in common with/ don't even really like; they tell you to dress all your female friends in the same clothes even if one is a size 6 supermodel and the other has a double E cup; they tell you to drink champagne ever though you prefer beer...

You see what I'm getting at?

Pretty Thrifty is all about helping you sift through all that stuff to figure out whats actually really important to you (hopefully your first answer is being married) but beyond that there is a world of absolutely lovely stuff out there that I will endeavor to show you.

Andy and Lucy by Diamonds & Doodles photography
















The wedding market can be a very expensive place, but with a little research, flexibility, creativity and channeling your inner Dominic Littlewood you can have an absolutely cracking wedding without starting your married life with either a ridiculous debt or having bankrupt your parents/ inlaws.

Lets begin with some numbers...
Brides Magazine (which is the best wedding mag out there for inspiration and gorgeousness) states that the average amount that their readers spend on their wedding is £24,716
I certainly don't have a spare 25k and even if I did I wouldn't spend it all on one day.

Here is a short list of better things you can do or buy with £24,716
- put down a 25% deposit on a nice little 100k terrace house or flat
- buy a 2nd hand Porsche
- Rescue 125 dogs
- eat 1250 takeaways
- stay in a fancy hotel for 6 months
- go on 8 round the world cruises

All the suppliers that I list in my directory have been personally vetted for awesomeness in terms of quality and a dedication to affordability.

As well as a focus of affordability Pretty Thrifty will offer realistic, rational and practical advice and inspiration. I've seen many normally sensible, pragmatic and rational women slowly lured and coerced into releasing an inner princess they didn't know existed chanting their mantra of "but it's my special day"

Many guides for brides will give you a breakdown of what you should spend and when, I'm not going to be doing that, I can tell you about the best times to book things and that you genuinely might miss out if you don't book early, but it's totally up to you what you spend and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
All I'll try to do is show you how to get/ make/ borrow the same but cheaper. A few quick examples...

You want a designer wedding dress?
The average spend on this is £1340; scour ebay and you'll often find the same dress half price

You love flowers and you want them everywhere?
Average spend on flowers is £560;  treat yourself to a beautiful bouquet then raid your parents gardens (it'll grow back), plan your wedding in early summer if you love flowers and go wildflower picking the day before

Got a particular venue in mind?
Don't pay Saturday prices, book Friday the 13th (there are a lot of superstitious people out there!) More importantly, haggle! You don't ask, you don't get!

So stay tuned for regular updates and posts plus some awesome guest contributions. I'm always happy to offer advice so comment, email & tweet me, I'll always reply

Shelley
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2 comments:

  1. Well said! So many people get caught up in what they believe they"have" to do and spend and then forget the real purpose!

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  2. What a great post!! Too right! Your wedding day is YOUR day, it should be what you want it to be :) Couldn't agree more xx

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